Let the record show that you gave it a go
We may think we are here to guide, teach and take care of the children.
Certain items we must do for the children, no doubt.
However, when we aren’t sponsoring every ice cream trip and sets of new school outfits, it is our time to model our children’s behavior.
No, it doesn’t have to be your child. Most of them can teach us exactly what we need to learn.
Before the eye opening list of what the children can school us on, let’s figure out why it may be beneficial to take notes.
We get older and we get scared(er). As we progress in life, the bills add up, the pain is easier to get to and we begin to give way too many fucks about what people who could care less about our wellbeing think about us.
Take a deep breath and let that part steep like some nice green tea.
Our followers, “friends”, coworkers, neighbors and associates could absolutely give 2 shits about if we are happy, healthy and fulfilled.
Yet, we spend our time composing the perfect pic to post on social platforms, we get the bigger body car to show we are in control of our life, our money and our credit scores. We focus heavily on our outer reality and struggle to keep it carefully curated to fit a hopeful approval from our peers.
And on the other hand we know most of our peers are doing the same thing, silently struggling to keep up at the risk of living and maintaining balance in the necessary quadrants of life.
The show goes on until we’re old, we reach the ephiphany that we were wasting all of our time but we cannot benefit from our new sage wisdom at such an old age and all we can do is tell it to our grandchildren who act like they are listening but also, could give a fuck less.
The cycle continues.
But what if instead of going through those same motions, we learned from the children.
The children are not scared to go through the pain to get to the promised land
Example: The child wants to be a skateboarder. They get the board, they push off and after the first attempt to do a kick flip. BOOM. Pain. Defeat. The big fall. The one where we crunch up our face empathizing the hurt of the fall. By the time our face of understanding their pain returns to normal, they are already pushing off once again. The determination of a child to get what they want from a kickflip to a lollipop is second to none.
You ever listen to the relentless will of a child who sees what they want and has to ask for help or permission to get it?
What do they do?
And ask again.
They go right pass no
After the child’s incessant requests or demands are denied, they ask for it again. Over and over, wearing the parent or loved one down to a pleading “okay… yes!”
In short, this is exemplary persistence.
They know when to forget
We adults often make the decision to keep scary, hurtful, negative memories in the front of mind and let them stop us from living the life we want to live. We justify our shortcomings with past instances that didn’t go as planned.
We know this is in conflict with our success, but we keep it up.
The child, we tell them to clean their room. Their favorite cousin drops by an hour later. We come into the room to discover the room is more of a mess than before we asked and to top it off the children aren’t even playing in that room.
In an effort to get some damn answers, we ask, “why didn’t you clean your room like I asked?” They reply: “I forgot”
We curse in our minds and politely walk away so that we don’t completely lose it in front of the children.
What if we took a lil piece of that?
What if instead of recalling what went wrong, we envision what may go right?
What if we saw what we wanted and went for it no matter how many times “no” would be the answer?
What if we charged toward the pain in order to get to the victory rather than retreat before we even start?
If you modeled the child, what would you accomplish?
Give it a go and find out.
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